Hi Clottie - I definitly agree, this checking out process with the tenant being there is pretty intimidating and I just cant be doing with the aggrevation that you know is going to happen.
To be honest several years ago when rents were good and our houses shabby, we didnt worry too much and did return pretty much everyones deposit.
Nowadays, we barely make a profit from the rent, the properties are in a much better condition with new kitchens, bathrooms, new carpets, freshly painted walls, nice furniture etc, yet tenants still think its OK to put their fags out on the carpets, scuff the walls, splash bath water all over the floor, draw on walls . . . . and what does a £600 deposit cover? Even if you can persuade the tenancy deposit scheme that you should keep it.
I have just done 2 check-outs without the tenants being present, saves the earbashing, but none of the other hassles. I took LOADS of photos.
I have also used an agent to perfom a check-out (one off fee of £60, which wasn't much more than petrol to drive there), but he didnt seem to think cleanlieness was an issue and anyway the ex-tenants still had my address and phone number (as I managed it), so still complained to me.
Anyway, very interested to hear what others do and wether with the advent of Tenancy Deposit Schemes we should be even more careful with check ins and outs.