Singing Pig

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I'm not sure about this whole race thing. I feel like its blown a little out of proportion. I feel I can say this because of my background. I've experienced it first hand as a kid for many years as my dad sent me to a chinese school and I was the only Indian girl in the whole school for 6 whole years. Over the years though especially with higher education and much travelling, I'd forgotten what it was like and realised that I've hardly even felt it. You still get the occasional thing here and there but so rarely that its really not worth bothering with.
Its my personal believe that the more you concentrate on it, the bigger a problem it appears to be ie. Someone's rude to you in a shop can be construed as 1) they are racist 2) they've had a bad day 3) they are generally rude and therefore should be pitied as they can't be too happy.... Honestly you could come up with a hundred interpretations for it, its what you choose to believe.
Yes, its definitely different in a lot of other ways but then because we're living within that culture, we all develop coping mechanisms which will not seem obvious to someone of a different race and so it never really is as bad as it seems for the majority of us. I've had all the line up of Indian boys that my mum and helpful others came up with but I ended up marrying for love a white guy and I can't see his colour. My mum didn't even put up a fight because he was the right one for me.
In my head, I'm a young, confident woman who's friendly and has a bad shoe and chocolate habit and its with that attitude that I go about in life and trust me, I've had no problems getting jobs, dating(race no bar!!) etc. Au contraire... Being a little 'different' so to speak has actually been advantagous and I occasionally get the 'strange looks' because its quite rare admittedly to see Asians in certain situations ie. backpacking alone but in my opinion, if OTHER PEOPLE can do it, so can I!! No race or sex issues should or would stop me.

Oh ya katpoo, I really love the

Thousands of years ago, cats were worshipped
as gods. Cats have never forgotten this.

Just the right touch :)

"No race or sex issues should or would stop me"

well said Master, well said

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Clottie the Positive. windswept and interesting !!

"The Lancashire Lady"

Quite a lot of asian property investors hang out on http://groups.msn.com/propertyinvestmentuk

Hi Sunita,

I am not a woman, but many of my best friends are! Does that qualify me?

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I worked as an estate agent for 14 years and I also have a lot of asian friends, both male and female.

I understand the whole thing about "looking for other asian women" because I can see the culture problem. When I sat across a desk from a married asian couple, you could sometimes see the lady trying to get her point across but being talked over by her husband.

I have also seen the difference between number 1 son and number 1 daughter. It sometimes looks to me as though one is a treasure and one is a burden. I know that they are both loved, but one carries on the name and the empire, and the other has to get up at 6am and start making chapatis, bronti, and dhall!!!

I also love seeing the way one of my friends cannot get out of his parents house without an interrogation. Mid 20's, good looking, nice paid for car, no debt, savings, investment properties, good career and NO WIFE - what will they say at the temple!!!!!!!! He's not ready to get married but other people have other ideas. What an amazing thing the indian community is. I think reputation is paramount.

Because of one of my business interests, I see a great deal of asian/chinese/ethnic women who are now flourishing because they can grow and be more than they were previously allowed to be.

I am also seeing a lot of asian ladies with higher degrees of education. I get the feeling that staying at Uni is an acceptable alernative to being married by the end of the year!! But what I really see, is a lot of intelligent, highly qualified, very attractive, single asian ladies who are creating their own success and amassing their own wealth.

Good luck to you.

Hi Sunita,

Yes,I'm asain,Indian,born and bought up in India.I'm into property investment for last couple of years.My aim is to achive financial freedom by 2010.I'm confident that I'll do it.Let me know how can I help you.

Bye for now!!!